Of wedding pictures

[milleniumgypsy]

Well, one of my bridesmaids, Krissy took photos during the wedding. As did my mom, and my sister took some pictures with her cell phone. I'm getting the professional pictures in soon. Krissy posted pictures friends only on flickr, which was what I was hoping that she'd do so I could download them. hehe
I'm very particular about who sees pictures of me, and so is Scottie.

Well, my sister posted some of those pictures that Krissy had friends only, plus her phone pictures, and a couple of pictures mom took on her myspace. Now, I hate myspace. Some of my friends are on it, and I use it to keep in touch with them better. But I'm not a big fan of the site in general, and it seems that the majority of myspace is populated with morons. Please nobody take offense. If you are reading my journal and use myspace, then I count you among the intelligent people on myspace. ;)

So. My sister posts a whole bunch of pictures of the wedding on myspace without asking me first. And some of the pictures I'm not all that thrilled with how they turned out. I'm fine with showing them to my friends but I think if there is a picture that I think I look icky in, I shouldn't have to worry about it being shown to anyone and everyone online. I was going to show them via flickr to those I wanted to show them to.
My sister is one of those people who try to make friends with as many people as humanly possible on myspace. Even if they have the IQ of a zucchini. No wait, that's mean. I'm insulting zucchinis.

So I show that to Scottie and he's not cool with it at all. So I ask her to take them down via neomail, because I saw she was online there. She says ok, sorry. Then she says "but Krissy has them on her my spaze 2" and I replied that didn't mean I wanted them there either. Now, Krissy basically just has her myspace to keep in touch with a few friends she knows IRL, pretty much how I use mine. So I'm not afraid that she's going to have a million random contacts going to see them. And she only posted a few with me and Scottie in them, and none of them look icky. But still, they're public pictures that we don't really want public. And I asked my sister to take hers down, so I'm going to be fair and have that be the rule for everybody. Flickr-friends and family only is fine; myspace is not. So I messaged her and asked her to take them down, and explained why.

My sister, even though she was online for quite some time after I asked, still hasn't taken down the pictures. At first I felt bad about asking her to take them down, but since I asked and she said she would but didn't... and is most likely in bed right now so isn't going to do anything about them until tomorrow night... Well, now I'm getting angry about it. Most of the pictures aren't even pictures she took herself, and they are pictures of me and Scottie that we don't want up. I don't think I'm in the wrong to ask people this, right? :/

Does anyone think I'm doing something wrong by asking people to take pictures of my wedding down?

Comments

[ladytalon.livejournal.com]

On the one hand, of course you have the right to ask that pictures of yourself not be publicly posted. And it's really rude of someone to not take down pictures of someone else, when that person has asked them to.

On the other hand, you have to be realistic: we live in what people keep calling "the digital age," and if you wanted complete control over photographs and their availability, you should have had a rule against people bringing cameras, or at the least, a rule stated beforehand so that people taking pictures already knew not to post them anywhere. But controlling people is like herding cats. =\

[invsagoth.livejournal.com]

My wedding was very very small, so there were few pictures taken. My guest list ended up being the bridal party, my great uncle, my mom, and my grandparents. I had one more person at the reception (Krissy's husband who wasn't able to make it to the ceremony due to work), so there were very few people taking pictures. Basically just the professional photographer, Krissy, my mom, and my sister. My grampa also took pictures with his film camera.

If I had a larger wedding, I would have just assumed that pictures of us could potentially been let loose on the net. But with this small group I it should be a little more controlled, and it's the people closest to me for crying out loud. I expect those people to be more respectful of my wishes. Ah well.

[rachelkachel]

Not at all. Posting pictures of someone online without their permission (even worse, when they've specifically requested otherwise) is rude. Ty has a point, but since it's your sister, I'd think she'd be even more responsible to respect your wishes.

[invsagoth.livejournal.com]

I would have thought so too! Hopefully she gets in gear and takes them down tomorrow. I've been nice about it, I don't want her to feel bad about it really. I'm glad that she was excited about our wedding and wanted to show off me in my beautiful dress (one of her comments said that), but I still didn't want them to be floating around public.

I'm not angry about it anymore, I'm just kind of sad about the whole thing. Oh well.

[slythrntimelord.livejournal.com]

You're well within your right to ask them to be taken down. I think she is rude for not. If her myspace is RL friends and such only maybe a compromise can be reached where she puts those pictures as friends only. That's how I have my pictures on there and that's what I use my myspace for.

I have e-stalkers looking at my flickr photos and coming up with nasty bullshit to tell people about my boyfriend and I based on photos I have up there. I don't want to live my life in fear of what some ho is going to say about me so I leave them up.

Good luck!

[invsagoth.livejournal.com]

Well, Krissy said she would take her myspace pictures down so my sister would take down hers. Krissy's myspace profile and everything in it is set to friends only, so I didn't have anything to worry about from there. Oops! I told her that she didn't have to take them down if they were friends only. Krissy's myspace is only RL friends.

Now with my sister, I know her photos were public because of the way I found out the pictures were on myspace to begin with. I could ask her to have them as friends only- but there is the problem of my sister friending anyone and everyone on myspace just to be friends with them. It's not RL friends only, it's anyone who will friend her back there. :P She's even had her profile deleted by myspace once, though she hasn't told me why yet.

That sucks about e-stalkers on flickr! Hopefully they'll find something else to do. :/

Btw- icon love. :)

[slythrntimelord.livejournal.com]

You know after all that clarification I would be tempted to tell your sister to take them down and let Krissy post whatever the hell she wants. Krissy is being an adult about it, it's a shame your sister cannot grow up. How old is she anyway?

<3 Firefly - it was steampunk before steampunk got all cool.

[invsagoth.livejournal.com]

Sorry for the delay in reply! My sister is 17. I told Krissy that she could put the pictures back up, though she hasn't yet. I'm not sure if she well just to make sure that things are fair.

hehe, Firefly is awesome. :D
I need more Firefly icons... I have so many icon spaces and just one Firefly icon??? I must remedy this! lol